24 Beautifully True Cartoons That Show What It’s Like Being An Introvert and INFJ

For introverts and people who identify as the INFJ personality type, art often becomes therapy. “Life is hard, and it’s even harder when you’re an INFJ,”

To introverts and INFJs, “Be true to yourselves, be good to yourselves. You’re wired a particular way, fashioned according to a particular design, so use it to do good, to do that which only you can do.”

These beautifully humble cartoons describe the quiet, often complex and confusing existence of introverts and INFJs:

1. You love people, but being around them for too long drains you.

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2. Your definition of ‘fun’ is different from most people’s definition.

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3. Unfortunately, most people just don’t get it.

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4. Some days, you wish you could disappear and get away from everyone for a while.

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5. People tell you to ‘come out of your shell,’ but that doesn’t change who you are.

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6. Spending time by yourself is the way you recharge.

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7. If you could actually get one of these installed, maybe others would understand you better.

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8. Crowds and attention aren’t really your thing.

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9. Small talk with strangers? You’ll avoid it if you can!

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10. People talk and talk, but to you it seems like all that noise doesn’t actually accomplish much.

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11. If people would do less talking and more listening, you think the world would be a better place.

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12. As an INFJ, you read others well and intuitively understand the things that go unspoken.

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13. Underneath your calm exterior is a rich, emotional world.

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14. You’re always thinking and analyzing. Always.

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15. Sometimes you torture yourself by using your vivid imagination to replay your mistakes.

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16. You’re reserved and private, so talking about yourself — especially to people you don’t know well — isn’t easy.

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17. As an INFJ, you’re sensitive, so you don’t let just anybody into your life.

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18. You often feel like you don’t fit in. You’re still trying to find your place in the world.

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19. Others see you as someone who generally has their act together, but you know you’re more complex than you appear.

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20. If only your personality actually came with an instruction manual.

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21. If you’re a highly sensitive person, you feel the pain of life deeply.

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22. You’ve been called ‘intense’ because you love connecting intimately with others.

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23. Because you truly care about almost everyone you meet.

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24. Your relationship goal: sharing solitude and your rich inner world with someone else.

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A psychologist discovered the secret to never getting frustrated

We all get frustrated.

The guy in front of you is driving like an idiot. Your boss is being a jerk. Your partner isn’t listening.

And sometimes these all happen to you on the same day.

What’s the fix for this? One guy came up with a solution that deals with all of these problems — and more.

Here’s what Wikipedia says about his system:

In general REBT is arguably one of the most investigated theories in the field of psychotherapy and a large amount of clinical experience and a substantial body of modern psychological research have validated and substantiated many of REBTs theoretical assumptions on personality and psychotherapy.

His stuff works. And it’s as simple as ABCD — quite literally, as you’ll see below.

So how can you never be frustrated again? Let’s break it down.

The Tyranny Of “Should”

Let’s cut to the chase, shall we? Here’s what you need to take away from Ellis’ work:

You don’t get frustrated because of events. You get frustrated because of your beliefs.

And where did this idea start? Ancient philosophy. Stoicism. That’s where Ellis found the concept. And then he proved it really worked.

…if you understand how you upset yourself by slipping into irrational shoulds, oughts, demands, and commands, unconsciously sneaking them into your thinking, you can just about always stop disturbing yourself about anything.

You’re stuck in traffic and that makes you angry, right? Wrong.

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Traffic happens. But you think it shouldn’t happen to you. And the thing that’s making you miserable is that word “should.”

Here’s an example. I say, “This headache remedy probably won’t work but give it a shot.” So you try it. And it doesn’t work. You’re not frustrated.

Okay, same situation but I say, “This always works.” It fails. Now you’re annoyed. What changed? Your expectation.

Or you tell a five-year old to stop yelling. They don’t listen. You don’t get that bothered. After all, the kid is five.

But if you tell me to stop yelling and I don’t listen, you get angry. What’s different? “Eric should stop. He’s an adult.

Again, nothing changed but your belief.

Pretty straightforward, right? But that leads to a question: how do you change your beliefs? Ellis has an answer.

The Universe Is Not Taking Orders From You. (Sorry.)

It’s as simple as ABCD. Really.

A is adversity. Traffic is awful.

B is your beliefs. And often they’re irrational. “This shouldn’t happen to me.” Well, guess what, Bubba? It is happening.

C is consequences. You get angry, frustrated or depressed.

In very few cases can you change A. But you can change B. And that will change C. So let’s bring in the 4th letter.

D: Dispute your irrational beliefs. “Wait a second. When did the universe guarantee me a trouble-free existence? It didn’t. Traffic has happened before. It will happen again. And I will survive.”

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Look for beliefs that hold the words “should”, “ought” or “must.” That’s where the problems lie.

You’re allowed to wish, want and desire. Nobody is saying you need to be an emotionless lump.

“I would very much like or prefer to have success, approval, or comfort,” and then end with the conclusion, “But I don’t have to have it. I won’t die without it. And I could be happy (though not as happy) without it.”

But you can’t demand the universe bend to your will. That’s where the frustration and anger creep in — because that godlike insistence isn’t rational.

When you insist, however, that you always must have or do something, you often think in this way: “Because I would very much like or prefer to have success, approval, or pleasure, I absolutely, under practically all conditions, must have it. And if I don’t get it, as I completely must, it’s awful, I can’t stand it, I am an inferior person for not arranging to get it, and the world is a horrible place for not giving me what I must have! I am sure that I’ll never get it, and therefore I can’t be happy at all!”

When you’re angry, frustrated or depressed look for those irrational beliefs.

People should treat me kindly and fairly all the time.” Sound rational? Hardly.

I ought to succeed at this. If I don’t, I’m a failure and a loser.” Really?

This person must love me back or I’ll die.” No, no, no you won’t.

What were you anxious or over-concerned about? Meeting new people? Doing well at work? Winning the approval of a person you liked? Passing a test or a course? Doing well at a job interview? Winning a game of tennis or chess? Getting into a good school? Learning that you have a serious disease? Being treated unfairly? Look for your command or demand for success or approval that was creating your anxiety or overconcern. What was your should, ought, or must?

Is disputing your irrational beliefs going to immediately change everything? No.

But when you start disputing you’ll see that your expectations aren’t in line with reality. And with a little work, those expectations will start to change.

Sum Up

It’s as simple as ABCD. Next time you’re turning red and clenching your fists, give this a shot:

A is Adversity. Like traffic. Sorry, no genie can let you wish it away.

B is Beliefs. Look for beliefs with these troublesome words: should, ought and must. “Traffic shouldn’t be this bad.” Not rational. Traffic is what it is. Sorry.

C is Consequences. You banging the steering wheel with your fist and sending your blood pressure into the stratosphere.

D is Dispute. Are you demanding the universe and everyone bend to your wishes? Is that rational? No way. You can want, you can wish and you can definitely try your best in the future, but you cannot demand if you want to stay happy and sane.

Life is not perfect. People aren’t perfect. You, dear reader, are not perfect. And that’s okay. But having beliefs that any of these things “should” be the way you want causes you a lot of unnecessary suffering.

Many of your irrational beliefs are not immediately obvious. Sometimes you’ll have to dig to find them. And you’ll need to dispute them a fair amount before new reasonable beliefs kick in. But you can definitely make progress.

What did Epictetus, the great Stoic philosopher, say way back in the first century AD?

People are disturbed not by things, but by the views they take of them.

What did Shakespeare write in Hamlet?

There’s nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.

How about the Buddha?

We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

Rarely can you change the world. But you can always change your thoughts.

And that can make you very happy.

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About Dreams

There are 3 groups of people.
1)    Dreamers
2)    Do-ers
3)    Ducks

It is dangerous to be a dreamer, who only dreams, dreams and dreams again but there is no action.

However, a dreamer can become a do-er.

Dreamers can also become ducks. Those who can only ‘quack’, gather together and ‘quack’ some more, without taking any action. They don’t want to work hard but they want to be rich.

The do-ers are those who do, and do, and do. They work and work and work. Therefore, they are rewarded. Do-ers need not be dreamers. They realize that if they work harder, they can buy a lot more things. And they can start dreaming of owning this and that. So they save the money to buy and buy and buy. To encapsulate their motto: do it, then dream.

When you do, you learn. At some point, you may get bored. This is where PASSION comes in. You innovate, you change, you strive to find the right formula, you have FUN, and you do things DIFFERENTLY.

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Personality Quotes

1. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle

2. “Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.”  – Mahatma Gandhi

3. “We become what we repeatedly do.” ― Sean Covey (The author of 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens)

4. “Sometimes I get the feeling that we’re just a bunch of habits. The gestures we repeat over and over, they’re just our need to be recognised. Without them, we’d be unidentifiable. We have to reinvent ourselves every minute.” ― Nicole Krauss (The author of Man Walks Into a Room)

5. “Just do it! First you make your habits, then your habits make you!” ― Lucas Remmerswaal (The author of A-Z of 13 Habits: Inspired by Warren Buffett)

 

 

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INFJ Careers, Jobs, Majors

INFJs are skilled with people and enjoy helping others solve their problems. They often take up work in teaching, ministry, and counseling, career choices that allow them to improve and enhance the lives of others.

Like INTJ career-seekers, INFJs are not necessarily opposed to assuming positions of leadership. Their primary stipulation is that they are working toward an end that accords with their ideals. For this reason, they may be drawn to non-profit work, often rising to positions of leadership in which they do a little of everything—casting the vision, writing grant proposals, marketing, hiring, etc.

Challenges in INFJ Careers

INFJs are driven to see their ideals, produced by their Introverted Intuition (Ni), perfectly translated into reality. One of the more common frustrations of INFJs is the disparity between their idealistic visions and the less than ideal way things tend to play out in reality. For instance, those interested in teaching or politics may feel their hands are tied as a result of deeply-entrenched practices or power structures. The INFJ is left with the choice of spending their lives fighting what seems like an uphill battle or to opt for a path of lesser resistance.

In response, some INJs may try to content themselves with being mere producers of ideals without direct involvement with their actualization. In typological terms, they focus on N while downplaying the importance of S. This may be why INJs are so common among academics (especially INTJs), since the academy allows them develop their theories more or less independently of their application. INJ writers also enjoy the opportunity of expressing their ideals without direct concern for their application.

Like ENFJ career-seekers, INFJs are generally less interested in career hopping and trial-and-error experimentation than INFP career-searchers are. They prefer to lay down roots when possible, as changes in outward circumstances can be unsettling to them. Their anxiety toward outer instability may be exacerbated by a difficult economic climate, which may lead them to settle for mediocre jobs. Even those preferring to go back to school or do something different may avoid doing so because of looming economic fears.

INFJs can also find it difficult to directly engage or act on the world (Se). While difficult for other types to fathom, some INFJs feel themselves so foreign to the world that action seems hopelessly strange and unnatural. Some INFJs report feeling so detached from their bodies that action feels like an awkward, out-of-body experience.

INFJ Holland Career Code/Interests

To orient our discussion of INFJ career interests, we will now draw on six interest themes described by John Holland and the Strong Interest Inventory. The Holland career interest themes include the Realistic (R), Investigative (I), Artistic (A), Social (S), Enterprising (E), and Conventional (C) domains, collectively known as “RIASEC.” After identifying one’s preferred interest domains, these letters can be combined in a way similar to the personality types to form a multi-letter “Holland Career Code” (e.g., IAS, RAI). This can help individuals identify their best career match. While often possessing career interests in several different domains, of the six RIASEC categories, INFJs commonly gravitate toward Social, Investigative, and Artistic pursuits.

Individuals with Realistic interests enjoy physical, hands-on work, often involving machines. They may take up careers such as computer science, engineering, architecture, and construction. Those attracted to Realistic work tend to enjoy working with “things” more than people. It is therefore unsurprising that this interest domain is correlated with a preference for Thinking over Feeling. Research suggests that S, T, and P types are somewhat more drawn to Realistic work than are N, F, and J types. Hence, with the exception of architecture (which itself is not a purely Realistic career), INFJs generally avoid Realistic careers.

The Investigative domain incorporates analytic, scientific, and academic interests. Investigative types enjoy working with ideas, theories, facts, or data. As Fe types, INFJs are typically less interested in the hard sciences (e.g., physics) than they are the social sciences (psychology, sociology, geography, political science majors, etc.). They are more apt to display Investigative-Artistic (IA) interests than IR interests. INFJs with IA or AI interests commonly major in the humanities, social sciences, philosophy, religion, critical theory, the humanities/liberal arts, investigative journalism, or non-fiction writing. Law and medicine are generally not the best fit for INFJs, as these professions are better suited for TJ types.

In concert with those displaying Investigative interests, individuals with Artistic interests often have an intellectual or cultural-orientation. The Artistic theme strongly correlates Myers-Briggs Intuition, as well as, to a lesser extent, Feeling and Perceiving. The Artistic interest domain requires little explanation. It captures those with unconventional and creative interests, including actors, painters, dancers, poets, sculptors, writers, designers, and the like. Unsurprisingly, Artistic types are highly represented among students studying the arts and humanities. Those interested in library science also tend to fall under this interest domain.

INFJs commonly possess Artistic interests. They often make excellent writers. Even if not great artists themselves, INFJs may choose to study art history or become art /museum curators. They often possess exquisite, refined tastes and love the arts and culture. They may relish classical music, operas, orchestras, Broadway productions, and other forms of high culture. INFJs with an Artistic-Social (AS) combination may enjoy teaching subjects related to the arts, humanities, or social sciences.

Individuals in the Social interest domain enjoy working with people. This domain is often conceived as the conceptual opposite of the Realistic domain, although some individuals enjoy working with both people and things. Social interests are common among teachers, healthcare workers, clergy, trainers, human resource professionals, and caretakers, to name a few. The Social domain relates to preferences for Extraversion and Feeling.

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Among the most popular careers, jobs, and majors for Social INFJs, as well as career-minded ENFJs, are those in religion/ministry, teaching/education, mental health counseling, and medicine/healthcare. Many INFJs are teachers at heart. They are knowledgeable about their subject area and display great care and concern for their students. They also tend to be articulate and well-spoken. While some may enjoy young children, INFJs are typically more interested in working with higher level students.

INFJs may also be drawn to ministry. According to one set of occupational rankings, six of the top ten INFJ occupations were ministry related. Ministry provides INFJs a venue for fleshing out their beliefs and values. It allows them to care for people and explore their interests in languages, ideas, and symbols.

The final two Holland domains, Enterprising and Conventional, are typically not the first choice for INFJs. The Enterprising domain entails the promotion of products, ideas, or services. Such individuals tend to be persuasive, assertive, and enjoy competitive environments. Typical Enterprising careers include sales and marketing, business and management, law, politics, journalism, insurance, and stock trading. Enterprising individuals often prefer Extroversion.

Individuals with Conventional interests enjoy administrative work. They do well with manipulating data and are organized and detail-oriented. Those in this domain often prefer Sensing (especially Si), Thinking (especially Te), and/or Judging. Hence, ISFJs career-seekers are typically a better fit for Conventional careers than INFJs are.

What follows is a list of INFJ job/ career choices and college majors organized according to the Holland interest domains:

Realistic:

• Architect

Investigative:

• Biology/biologist, neuroscience
• Philosopher/theologian
• Sociologist, political scientist
• Researcher or research assistant
• Psychologist, research, personality, social
• Journalist
• Peace studies

Artistic:

• Playwright
• Curator
• Critic: art, film, literary, food
• Musician
• Editor, writer, blogger

Social:

• Counseling/counselor/therapist
• Psychologist, clinical or counseling
• Human resources professional
• Teacher/college professor: art, religion, English, literature
• Priest, pastor, rabbi, monk, nun, minister
• Mediator

Enterprising:

• Consultant
• Journalist

Conventional:

• Administrator

The Inferior Function in INFJ Career Decision-Making

There seems to be a fair amount of irrationality at play in career decision-making, with people commonly choosing careers poorly suited for their personality type. The reason for this, as I’ve explained in other posts, is that such decisions are being driven by our often overlooked influence of the inferior function. This may lead Myers-Briggs Intuitive types, for instance, to be drawn to careers better suited for Sensing types, and vice-versa.

INFJs are susceptible to the insidious influence of their inferior function, Extraverted Sensing (Se), in their career decision-making. Namely, they choose careers that are rooted in the wishes and desires of their Se rather than those of the top two functions, Ni & Fe. In doing so, they may end up in careers normally population by ESPs, leaving them feeling stressed, depleted, and unfulfilled.

For example, an INFJ friend of mine opted try her hand at culinary school in hopes of becoming a pastry chef. She had always enjoyed baking and making her creations beautiful. Her taste for fine food and concern for aesthetics are both related to her inferior Se. As she underwent her culinary training and later worked as a pastry chef, she realized how unrealistic and unhealthy this career choice was for her. It was physically demanding, fast-paced, required constant Se attention to detail, and was forever frustrating because of her Se perfectionism. She realized that this was not a good career fit and she was better suited for working with people (Fe) and ideas (Ni) than one characterized by concrete action (Se).

As another example, INFJs are often drawn to the visual arts or interior design. This allows them to work at converting an ideal (N) to a concrete reality (S). But such work requires careful attention to Se detail. One could argue that it is heavier on S than it is on N. Add in INFJs’ perfectionism and the pressure of trying to make a living from it, and you have a potential recipe for disaster. A better career choice for an INFJ might involve studying, teaching, theorizing, or writing about art/design. While still incorporating their Se inferior, these alternatives incorporate more Ni and Fe, making them ultimately more satisfying and less prone to the addictions and extremism of their inferior function.

Making money is another inferior function related problem point for INFJs. INFJs love to live in beautiful surroundings. They often have refined and expensive tastes. Financial security is also important to them. Since all these things require money and are intertwined with their inferior function, money can be a dangerous thing for INFJs (the same would hold true for INTJs). In order to avoid money-related addictive behavior, INFJs may do best as salaried employees. This reduces the incentive for workaholism that could easily manifest if working on commission.

In the end, INFJs are wise to consider the degree to which their career choice is being dictated by their Se and whether it is likely to introduce Se-related problems. While it may be okay for INFJs to have some amount of Se activity in their work, having too much can easily contribute to burn-out, frustration, and dissatisfaction.

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