10 Things That The People Who Love Their Lives Are Doing Differently

Happy people live their lives differently. They don’t have different lives. They just do a better job at living them than those who are unhappy. Happiness is the result of subjective interpretation of perception. Of course, what we perceive isn’t always done so by choice — life does throw things our way. However, most of the time, we find ourselves in the situations we are in because of actions we took and decisions we made. It’s the way that you live your life that largely decides whether or not you will live happily.

1. They don’t bother trying to make others like them — mainly because they don’t care if they’re liked.

They like themselves and they are the only people they ever answer to. You could like them. You could hate them. You could pay them no mind whatsoever — doesn’t make a difference to them.

They do what they do because they decided to do it. They aren’t trying to gain your approval or acceptance. They don’t want to be part of your team — they’re a team of their own. They live their lives the way they see fit and if you like them for it, great. If not… then so be it.

2. They do things because they want to do them, not because they believe they have to do them.

They don’t believe they have to do anything. Other than pay taxes and die of course — everything else is a decision followed by deliberate action. If they are doing something, going somewhere, participating in something, it’s because that is exactly what it is that they want to be doing.

No one coerced them or tricked them into doing it because they value their opinion above everyone else’s. They do what they believe is right and don’t bother to ask for permission — they just do it.

3. They love their friends but don’t rely on them.

Friends are tricky because they aren’t really yours, are they? You don’t own them. They are their own people who have their own wants and needs — people who will always put themselves ahead of you and your goals. Friends are great to have, but relying on them too heavily will leave you disappointed.

Those who live happy lives have very close friends, but they keep their independence in order to avoid those moments. It’s the lack of independence and over-reliance that often comes to ruin friendships — all relationships for that matter.

4. When you ask them what they do, they don’t give you a job title.

They tell you about the things they are doing with their lives — the places they have visited and are planning on visiting. The projects they are starting or part of. The problems they are working towards solving and the communities they are working with to get those problems solved.

When you ask them what they do, they respond with what they do in their lives, not what work they do in order to pay for the lives they want to one day be living. The real trick is that these individuals know better than to wait to live the lives they want to live. You live life whether you accept or ignore the fact, how you live it in the moment determines how happy you are.

5. When you ask them where they live, they say, “At the moment…”

Happy people tend to move around a bit. Maybe it’s because traveling does the soul good. Maybe it’s because the stagnancy of staying in one place their whole lives bores them.

Maybe it’s because they love meeting new people and having new experiences. Maybe it’s because they haven’t found the right place to settle down just yet. You see, these individuals see the world as their home — no single country or city. If you ask them where they live, then they’d answer “earth” if they wouldn’t come off sounding highfalutin.

6. They have their own philosophies, their own religion they created and live by.

You don’t need a book to tell you how you ought to live your life. You can live your life by whatever philosophy you wish — as long as you found truths that satisfy you. They have a strong grasp of right and wrong and are their own judges.

7. They embrace their impermanence.

They know they’re only mortal — having this knowledge and accepting it fuels their every step. You will too. Why? Because it is inevitable. There is no way of avoiding it, only dealing with the fact.

The happiest of people don’t fear death. They don’t do their best to avoid it. They see it as the inevitability that it is in and live their lives by their terms. They may not be able to control death, but they know they sure as hell can control their own personal lives.

8. They see the world as their playhouse and their mind as the conductor.

They don’t believe there is a single way that the world is — a single reality that exists. Instead, they believe themselves to be the originators of their reality.

They believe they have full control over how they interpret what they perceive. They see the world the way they choose to see it because they understand the power such a skill has. We all live in a reality of our own construction. Some of us just construct our realities better than others.

9. They live in the moment, but dream in the future.

Happy people have hopes, dreams and goals. They have wants and aspirations, but they don’t allow themselves to get caught up and lost in them. There isn’t so much a time and place for dreaming as there is a maximum allotted amount recommended.

You can’t live life doing nothing more than looking towards the future because you’ll miss the only time that things actually matter or exist: the present. The present, the immediate moment is the only moment that you can actually live in. The rest is only an illusion.

10. They don’t bother changing others, but instead learn how to deal with them appropriately.

Devoting your energy to changing other people is a waste of it. People do change, but they only do so on their own accord. They have to decide to change themselves and that only happens in time — you can’t push and force because it doesn’t work.

On the contrary, it often does the opposite of what is intended. Instead of wasting time and energy trying to do the impossible, why not do the next best thing? Learn to deal with people as they are in order to get the result you desire. If you can’t change them, then guide them to do as you wish. Otherwise, let them go.

10 Things That The People Who Love Their Lives Are Doing Differently

5 Strategies for Building Your Enthusiasm

If you want to succeed in sales, you must have a lot of enthusiasm. That’s because it can easily be drained from you every day. In this post, I’ll cover 5 strategies for building your enthusiasm.

I understand how tough it can be to keep your enthusiasm on those days when you face rejection, cancellations, lost sales, and have to handle numerous challenges for the people you serve both as external clients and internally with your co-workers. After much observation, I’ve come to the conclusion that in order to be an enthusiastic person, you have to have the following five ingredients in your life:

1. The first thing is curiosity. Do you dream about driving the car or owning the home of your dreams? This is curiosity about a certain lifestyle, and that curiosity builds enthusiasm. Think about what you’re curious about. If nothing comes to mind, start becoming curious about something!

I often golf at country clubs that are very elite. In some instances, I add on to a threesome of folks I’ve never met before. Being curious, I enjoy getting to know the other  golfers, and often find that they are incredibly wealthy in material things. However, the material wealth they have accumulated has not made them happy. In fact, I find they are often cynical and negative towards their fellow men. They have lost their curiosity about life, ideas, and other people and in doing so, have lost their enthusiasm for living.

2. The next ingredient is interest. You have to keep a high interest level about your products, your loved ones, and in new experiences. People who have lost their enthusiasm have also lost their interest. You will often hear them saying, “I’m not interested in doing that.” Or, “I have no interest in going there.”

3. The third thing you need to have in addition to curiosity and interest is knowledge. Enthusiasm and competence never last long without knowledge. Seek to learn something new every day!

4. Belief is the fourth ingredient. You must believe that what you are doing is right. Believe in yourself and your product or service. Believe in the changes you can make in other people’s lives — for the better.

5. The fifth thing you need to have within yourself to generate enthusiasm is purpose. Your purpose must transcend making money. You may think being rich brings about enthusiasm, but enthusiasm is even more important when you are down and out with little or no financial reserves. Having enthusiasm helps you to stay motivated and focused for your climb to the top, and in reaching the goals you have set for yourself.

http://www.tomhopkins.com/blog/overcoming_rejection/building-your-enthusiasm

Why You Should Quit Your Unhappy Job and Travel

Travel Around the World

If you clicked on this article, chances are, you are a 20-something or 30-something full-time employee who feels like you’ve been tolerating the humdrum 9-to-6 life for far too long.

So here’s an idea: quit. Then pack your bags, and go travelling. Yes, make that drastic decision, be a little daredevil – you won’t regret it. Let me tell you why you should quit your unhappy job and travel.

Bukhansan Seoul

YOU WILL GET TO EXPERIENCE THE WORLD

Yes, yes, I know – this is such a no-brainer, right? But take a second to think deeper into this. How things are done, as you know them to be, are very different around the world. For example, breakfast is a meal taken between 6am and 9am, right? Well, the Nepalese don’t actually have “breakfast”, at 10am, they eat lunch. When they rise at around 6am, they have tea and biscuits and call it a “snack”.

Do you think the elderly here could hike up a mountain? In South Korea, I had hunched-over ajummas overtake me on a hiking trail – and I exercise on a regular basis! It showed me quite clearly that I don’t have to resign myself to inactiveness in my golden years – which, in all honesty, is how I would have viewed it if I were to base it on how the aged get by here.

And yes, you could hear stories about all of this – but wouldn’t it be better if you got to try everything yourself? The world out there is so, much, more than our little speck of an island and the things that we are used to.

Darwin City Beach

YOU WILL LEARN NEW THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF

I didn’t know that I could catch a fly with my bare hands. I didn’t know that I did, after all, fear heights a little. I always thought I had zero problems with it – until I stood at a cliff’s edge on a small mountain in New Zealand expecting excitement, only to feel my legs go soft and an urge to start crawling on all fours.

I didn’t know that there is a limit to how much I can take overseas and yearn to go home – I always thought the wanderlust in me could never be quenched.

I didn’t know that I would turn into a snapping psycho if we got lost and were wasting precious travelling time. Though I did learn that at the end of the day, there’s no harm done – what’s the point of getting mad at time that’s already passed?

Goldcoast

YOU WILL FIND OUT IF YOU WANT TO STAY PUT OR RELOCATE

When I was 16, I visited an aunt who lived in Gold Coast. My family and I stayed with her for close to a month, and I returned home yearning to live in Australia. I am 26 this year, and as I matured throughout the years, a part of me considered that the desire to relocate was possibly something I wanted rashly as a naïve 16-year-old. Well, today, I still want to move.

In the last 10 years, I have visited several other countries and while I am now not so certain which country I’d end up in, my dream to relocate sticks. I am aware I am blessed to be born here, but it is not the place that makes me the happiest. Inversely, there are people who go abroad to find out, they will never move. You can only find out which side of the fence you prefer when you’ve actually climbed over.

Seoul Cherry Garden

YOU GET TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS, EVEN CLOSE ONES

I did not expect to form a bond with a couple that I’d met on a holiday in South Korea in 2012. For some reason, we really connected and still keep in touch via Whatsapp. Similarly, I’ve heard many stories of friends who’ve met some of their best friends while travelling, in the most serendipitous situations.

YOU GET TO TELL COOL STORIES

I was once almost stuck atop a mountain fortress close to sunset, with no food and warm clothing in autumn. Thank goodness I found a detour – I was honestly beginning to panic.

I once met a fellow traveller who shared the same birthday and who was turning the same age – we ended up having a mini celebration at his hostel where he cooked dinner.

Nepal Kids

YOU DON’T HAVE TO SPEND A LOT OF MONEY, OR TIME

Notice how I didn’t mention anything about some 6-month round-the-world trip? Did you automatically assume that? Travelling for an extended period of time doesn’t necessarily mean you have to spend a lot of money, or time! Take a break for a month and a half.

You can go WWOOF-ing (an international programme where you work on an organic farm in exchange for food and accommodation) or do other forms of volunteer work to keep costs low.

Hostels around the world offer free accommodation in exchange for a few hours of work, five to six days a week – you can find openings on sites like http://www.helpx.net.

Whitewater New Zealand

YOU CAN FIND A JOB WHEN YOU COME BACK

A month-long break is not too long a wait for your next employer, if you already have a job lined up. And if you don’t, listen – the world is not going to end for you. It really isn’t! If you want more security in place, quit between January and March.

A lot of people are moving on in the job market then, and there are sure to be openings you can fill when you return. When I came back, I had interview offers which I was sure I would be able to ace because of my prior job experience, but I turned them down because I was looking to do something new.

Travel Beach Getaway

IF NOT NOW, WHEN?

To wrap it all up, I leave you with this quote – by Randy Komisar, The Monk and the Riddle: The Education of a Silicon Valley Entrepreneur – which I try to live by: “The most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.

You can try to foresee and prep, as much as you can, for what will happen in the future, but the truth is, you’ll never really know.

Travel now – before you have children, before illness strikes, before you need to pay for your home loan, and car loan… And if you already have some monthly payments to make, it’s still not impossible to go – you just need to find a way to save more for the trip (and you really don’t need much!).

Travelling will do wonders for your soul, your being and your mind. So go ahead, take that plunge.

http://www.ladyironchef.com/2014/05/quit-unhappy-job-travel-the-world/#more-37856


List of things to Remember

1. Do your best!
2. Cultivate attitude of gratitude
3. Avoid asking “what if” and spend more on action
4. Think positive
5. Disconnect
6. Sleep
7. Reframe perspective
8. Treat people
9. Accomplish something big
10. Live for others
11. Jealousy destroys
12. Let things go
13. Grit
14. Will & Passion
15. Rome is not built overnight.